Slut? Bottom? Bitch?
So, I just opened this email from someone who happened to see this pic of me - somewhere on the net:
Their comment was, "What a SLUTTY PIC, I LOVE IT! you sexy little bottom bitch!" For some reason, I was really offended by the comment and I don't really know why. I mean, it's not like I didn't put the pic out there to get some sort of reaction. But maybe I'm not a bottom - all of the time. And there's a huge possibility I'm not in the least bit 'little'. And I'm certainly not this person's bitch! And a SLUT? Uh uh.
And, what if they'd seen this pic instead:
Would he still have said, "you sexy little bottom bitch"? Cuz I normally get the opposite reaction from this pic. Why couldn't he have just said, "You sexy bitch!"? I don't know...now that I think about it, who cares!? At least he said "sexy".
You gotta admit that the first picture, bottom or not, is saying "i want something up my bootie." :-) I think it's the position, not what you look like.
Posted by: Tony (LT) | January 2007 at 10:41 AM
Wait, you're gay? ;-) Love both of the pics!
Posted by: Donnie v2.0 | January 2007 at 10:48 PM
Oh, and if it were THURSDAY, lol...they'd be labeled HNT. Don't you worry, I've got my HTN lined up!
Posted by: Ethan | January 2007 at 04:39 PM
I can definitely say I'm not in the least bit homophobic. But, my reaction may stem from the fact that after I first came 'out', I was labeled a bottom, right off the top! (pun semi-intended). So, I felt like I had to live my life as a bottom. Then, with my second boyfriend - who was all bottom, I'd taken the reverse role. Since that time, I've been versatile - some boys wanting me for one thing, other's for my 'other thing'. ;)
It's only recently, however, that I've come 'out' emotionally...discovering that who I am is fluid and changing, just the way I am in bed. Before now, and through most of gay life, I've always felt the need to fulfill someone else's ideal of what they wanted me to be. But, I'll save my feelings on this for another post.
Suffice it to say, I'm not much for sexual labeling. I'm ambisextrous...a sexual chameleon of sorts, where the 'what's' and 'how's' are determined by who I'm with and what WE want, at the time.
So, Jake...choose one of the pics and let me know. ;)
Posted by: Ethan | January 2007 at 01:16 PM
And....where's your fuckin' hnt post?
These dont count...They're not titled HNT... :-P so there....
*lick*
Posted by: Jake | January 2007 at 12:33 PM
YOU SEXY FUCKIN' VERSATILE STUD.... I'LL BE YOUR BITCH...IF YOU BE MINE....
Posted by: Jake | January 2007 at 12:31 PM
Your reaction is quite understandible. No one likes to be stereotyped, or to have assumptions made about him on scant evidence. BUT would you have reacted the same way if the correspondent had, after looking at your more "butch" photo had said: "Oh, you hot, sexy bastard. How I yearn to feel your hot cock in my hungry bitch's hole."
What I'm suggesting is that you reaction might just betray a tinge of gay homophobia. It's fine to have people assume that you're a top, even if they're wrong. What riles is to have people assume you're a bottom, even if they're right.
Posted by: Bruce | January 2007 at 10:21 AM
In the eyes of a top, everyone is a bottom. Perhaps he was top. So maybe, wishful thinking on his part.
Posted by: Todd/Imnot2bzy | January 2007 at 01:02 AM